They Say that Blood is Thicker than Water

But it’s really relationship that thickens both.

Willow Tree 1In my previous post I mentioned the testing that my husband and I had to have done: His regarding the increase in his white blood cell count, me for the tenderness in my right breast. I received a letter a week ago that stated “no evidence of cancer found,” which made my doctor suspect that the tenderness may be the result of fibroid tissue, as well as a menopausal symptom. My husband, however, was diagnosed “officially” with Chronic Lymphoid Leukemia — which his mother also had. Although, for now, he is basically healthy and needs no treatments, or medications, just blood tests and monitoring every three months, it is still scary. In the car heading home from the medical center he started to tear-up and he said, “I love our girls. They are my daughters. But this is the first time I’m glad that they don’t have my blood.” Chronic Lymphoid Leukemia can be hereditary. When were married, Ernie took a wife AND four daughters, ranging in age from 6 to 12. It was a HUGE undertaking on his part and in the decades since, through the trials and tribulations and turbulence, it has been all about relationship.

A lot of emphasis is often placed on the importance of blood ties in families and yet, the most important Christian family of all was not held together by a bloodline, but by relationship.


Ruth and Naomi

We have all heard the stories of horrible stepfathers and wicked stepmothers. Indeed, many of us have experienced life with a few. And yet, if we are to truly embrace and accept the lineage of Christ, we cannot do so without also acknowledging that blood was not the central tie that bound the roots of His family tree. Relationship was key.

When Naomi lost her husband and her two sons, Ruth, who had been married to Naomi’s son, Mahlon, could have rightfully returned to her own people. She was a young widow with no children. Instead, she chose to stay with Naomi as her daughter.


As Naomi’s daughter Ruth traveled and cared for her. Eventually, along the way, she met and fell in love with Boaz and, with Naomi’s blessing, married again.  The union of Boaz and Ruth gave birth to Obed — who Naomi embraced as her own grandchild. In doing so, Naomi became an integral branch on Christ’s family tree.

The roots of Jesse’s Tree {a reference to Christ’s lineage} were held in place through relationship. Though Boaz may have carried the bloodline, we cannot overlook the importance of the relationship between Naomi and Ruth, who shared no common bloodline, but were instrumental members in the family history of Christ.

Likewise, there’s Joseph. While we as Christians believe God to be the divine Father of Jesus Christ, it was Joseph, his earthly father, who raised him and also shaped him into the man he would become.

Jesus and Joseph The birth and life of Christ is referred to as the greatest story ever told. Ultimately what makes it the greatest story are the relationships from roots to branches on His family tree.

I find it incredibly sad when a parent or grandparent consciously, or unconsciously, refuses to accept a child as their own simply because they don’t share a bloodline. It is extremely disappointing when they are known to be believers in Christ. Believing in Christ is more than just accepting him as the Son of God, it’s also accepting those human beings who made him the son of man — blood and water.

Water, in fact, is extremely important as it turns out. Christ turned water into wine and wine becomes His blood through transubstantiation when we partake in the Eucharist. Man needs water above all else for life here on earth and Christians need Living Water to live fully in the Kingdom.

“He that believeth in me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water.” — John 7:38

Orange Door 23

There is truth in that our children come through us, not necessary from us. We are the door between heaven and earth. We are not here merely to raise something from nothing, but to tend that which has always existed:

“”Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.” — Jeremiah 1:5

The Prophet

On Christmas Day 1974, my grandmother gifted me with THE PROPHET by Kahlil Gibran. The Prophet is asked to “Speak to us of Children” (excerpt):

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you yet they belong not to you…

You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams…

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

Beach BuddiesMy husband is the Dad and Grandfather of our family, and his love for our children and grandchildren runs deep. To think of him any other way is to tarry “with yesterday.”

Blessings, dear reader








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