Definition: Nonconformist — A person who does not conform to generally accepted patterns of behavior or thought.
A hippie sitting down at a formal dinner who knows what each eating utensil is, as well as when and how to use it.
I don’t need my socks to match, but I do prefer they share at least one color.
I don’t need my furniture or china or homegoods to be in sets, but I do want the chi in my home to flow harmoniously.
Although by childhood was linear, it wasn’t nuclear.
Though the roots on my family tree run deep, they aren’t straight. They are kinked and run wonky, pushing up sidewalks and forming cracks in the neighbor’s driveway.
Baptized Catholic. Yet, always open to finding value in the spiritual and spirit-filled religions and faith practices of others.
Raising children to eat dinner at the table and go to bed early. Teaching children to question everything and form their own opinions.
Choosing friends who are loyal, but not, “‘Yes Women.” Friends who listen, but do not automatically agree. Friends who appreciate my insights and perspective. Friends who listen to my rants on politics or religion and play a mean game of Devil’s Advocate. Friends who ear-up to my vents on family and, afterwards, remind me how swell my spouse really is and how beautiful, inside and out, my children are — at all ages and in all stages.
Boring. My life would be stagnant and stifled if my husband, children, and friends all agreed with my words and ways. Though there would be far fewer teeth marks and chewed flesh. Butt bites makes me grimace.
I like to Danse Macabre on Halloween, commune with the faithful on All Saint’s Day, and pray for the dearly departed on All Soul’s Day.
I embrace and find value in both the poor and the rich, the young and the old, the sunshine and the rain, the positive and the negative. Because many years ago, decades ago really, I contemplated His Words:
“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same.” — Luke 6: 33
I took His Words to heart and mind.
Rich people often make poor choices.
Poor people often live richly in spirit.
Old people sometimes do childish things.
The young sometimes are wise in thought and deed.
Rain sometimes falls on sunny days.
Sunshine is sometimes clouded.
Negative people often inspire positive thoughts.
Positive people sometimes speak and behave negatively.
I can’t adhere to thinking of all things, every body, in one way.
I don’t need my world to be black and white to navigate through it.
I like the messiness of color that both sets and bleeds.
That’s the way I roll.
That’s the way I’ve always rolled.